With one child in Oklahoma (it was New Mexico at the weekend) and another in Tanzania, with a huge time zone separating both, here in Brighton we have become the decentred parents. To paraphrase Oscar Wilde, to lose one child may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness. But that, I guess, is the place of parenting and we have to be happy that they had the confidence to travel so far, knowing they could and will, in time, return. And when they do they will know that in Brighton (not Worthing - for those who know the play) they can think freely and for themselves, which is what (we hope) we sent them out to do.
